What to do when someone dies
The first hours and days after the death of a loved one can be an extremely traumatic and confusing time, leaving you bewildered as to what you need to do and how to do it. The first thing to remember is that you do not have to face this alone. In addition to family and friends, there are many organisations who can provide support and guidance on the journey you are about to undertake. Some of these organisations are referenced within this website for your convenience. Our aim is to provide you with practical help when it is most needed. See below for guidance.
When a death is reported to the coroner
Coroners are independent judicial officers who investigate deaths reported to them. They will make whatever inquiries are necessary to find out the cause of death, this includes ordering a post-mortem examination, obtaining witness statements and medical records, or holding an inquest.
The death was violent or unnatural; or
The cause of death is unknown; or
The deceased died while in state detention.
Steps to take in the days following a death:
There are many practical steps which need to be taken in the first few days after a death. Unfortunately, this may be when you are feeling least able to cope with this type of responsibility. The main thing is to ensure that, where possible, you have someone to help you as it is possible to feel completely overwhelmed at a time like this.
Marking the Grave
Most people choose to mark the grave with some kind of memorial, often called a headstone. These are made of materials such as marble, granite or slate and are engraved with details of the bereaved and possibly a message from their family. It can take quite a long time to arrange for this to be created as the stone sometimes needs to be ordered in. A local stonemason would be able to give you details about their products and services, as well as some idea about their fees.