Physical Impact

During the first moments, hours and days after a death, we experience intense shock, particularly if the death was not expected. Stress hormones are suddenly released by the body to help it cope with the shock. This can have a devastating impact on the physical body and can lead to serious health conditions including stroke and heart attack. It is important to not be alone if at all possible in order that urgent medical attention can be sought if necessary. You might also start to experience uncontrollable weeping, aches and pains, digestive problems, feelings of nausea, headaches, chest pain, a weakened immune system, feelings of anxiety, feeling abnormally tired etc. You may even find it impossible to cry. While this is all normal, remember to consult your GP if you are at all worried about it.

 

There are ways in which you can reduce the physical impact of grief:

 

· Although easier said than done, try to get a reasonable amount of sleep since lack of it can have a highly detrimental effect on your physical and mental health. It is absolutely normal to experience nightmares and intense dreams at this time so try not to worry if this happens to you.

· In addition, try to eat well. This may be the last thing you want to do, particularly in the early days, but you need to do this in order to maintain the strength you need to face the challenges ahead.

· Try to take some form of gentle exercise every day. The act of walking can help your brain start to process the shock and trauma associated with the death of a loved one. It also helps with social contact, a vital part of the grieving process.

· Where possible, avoid using alcohol or non-prescription drugs to numb your pain. They reduce the ability to think rationally and could cause more problems. If you feel you need more help, speak to your GP.