Mental Health Impact
Since the loss of a loved one is such a significant event in life, it is not surprising that it often has an equally significant impact on mental health. This can be fairly temporary or it can last for longer periods of time. Common experiences include:
· Feelings of confusion and being unable to process new information as you once did.
· Moving slower than previously.
· Often forgetting things, even routine events such as when to put the bins out.
· Difficulties in concentrating for reasonable amounts of time which can impact work or studying.
· Finding that your mind is dominated by thoughts of the deceased and how life has changed without them.
· A feeling of detachment from other people and everyday situations, as though life is moving forward without you.
· Feelings of anxiety, possibly leading to panic attacks.
· Experiencing vivid dreams or nightmares, often including the loved one, which can leave you feeling very unsettled on waking.
· A sense that your mind is playing tricks on you because you feel that you have seen or heard your loved one even though you know that they have passed away.
· If the death occurred in very traumatic circumstances, you might even develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Many people find that these feelings tend to begin to subside after 6 months or so. However, for others the impact on mental health is much more severe and could lead to clinical depression. This can present itself in a range of ways:
· A lack of interest, or an inability to engage, in everyday life.
· A feeling that you are unable to experience happiness or pleasure in things which you used to enjoy.
· Persistent sadness or feelings of despair.
· Withdrawing from social contacts.
· Lack of interest in taking care of yourself or your home.
· An inability to think positively, feeling empty and lonely all the time.
· Experiencing dark thoughts or an obsession with death and your own mortality.
· In some cases, people develop Prolonged or Complicated Grief in which their emotions and thoughts are far more intense and long-lasting.
· It’s also important to recognise that grief can sometimes be so overwhelming that people struggle to find a reason to carry on. If you are experiencing feelings of despair, or even thoughts of harming yourself, you must talk to someone about your emotions in order to find the support you need. Your GP will be able to suggest different strategies, including talk therapies and/or medication.